How To Tell If You're In A Toxic Relationship (Part Two)
June 7, 2021
(friendships, family, romantic, work)
Questions to ask yourself if you're debating removing someone from your life that might be toxic:
How do they speak to you?
If someone is consistently insulting you (as a "joke" or not), putting you down, or making you feel insecure it's time to move on.
How do you feel when you leave them/after you spend time with them?
If you are refuelled and feel energise, happy, and content after you leave them - this is a great sign. If you're depleted, upset, frustrated, or drained - I'd look into why.
Are they jealous of your other close relationships?
Some men who have a jealously/controlling problem are usually nervous because they think their partner is doing the same things they are.
Some women who are jealous/controlling usually are very insecure.
Both are issues that can be swapped between any genders, but psychologically that tends to be the case. Either issue needs to be solved by the other person, not for the other person.
NOTE: We all get a little jealous sometimes (we're human!) but there are levels and if it's constant, it is a problem.
Friends who are jealous of their other friends' friendships are insecure. If anyone tries to control you or make you feel bad about having other relationships (at any capacity) - IT IS TOXIC.
Do they make time for you
Romantic - If you want more, you are not a booty call. You also need to be a daytime walk in the park call. If that's not "their style" walk with someone else. If you don't want more, do what you want, but if you end up needing more later on, know you can't change someone!
Family and Friends - Make time for the ones who YOU want to see and who attempt to see you.
If someone wants to see you, THEY WILL. You will not always will you be a friend's top priority. There are different levels of friendship but, do not put all your energy and focus on a person who is not doing the same for you.
