Surround Yourself With Like-Minded People
December 21, 2020
I don't mean surrounding yourself with people who don't challenge you and do exactly as you do. You need a variety of personalities in your life so you can have conversations and experiences that broaden your perspective!
I'm talking about finding people who have the same mindset as you or the mindset you want to have. Someone who will appreciate, push, and support the things you're doing because they're on a similar path.
How do I do that?
You put out what you receive but it does take time, it takes effort, and not to be dramatic but it takes courage.
To put yourself out there is no small task. To smile when you've only frowned, to say hi to strangers when you're shy, to constantly put yourself in new situations can be a lot of work - at first.
Figure out who you want to be and what is most important to you.
For me: I always try to surround myself with hard workers. People who are motivated, independent, risk-takers, dedicated, and balanced. Why? Because that's who I want to be. My best friends in the entire world - work so hard. It inspires me every day to be worthy of their friendships. My parents inspire me to be better (hence the photo of my mom at the top!) I try to emulate the hard work they showed me growing up to make them proud - in turn making myself proud.
How to find them
They're all around you. Startup a conversation with someone in the line at the checkout, next to you on the bus, and of course at the gym. Go where you think like-minded people would be. For me, I find most of them at the gym, events, and coffee shops.
Don't Get Discouraged
It can take months to form a connection friendship, it's different than a quick connection. 90% of the people I talk to in a day are just in passing. Most people I speak with I never see again. It's about putting out what you want because then you get good at it - you're ready. The opportunity is yours if you want to take it.
Ask
If I like someone I make a point to ask them to go to lunch, train with me, go for a walk, or just hang out. I put myself out there knowing they might never take me up on that offer. I usually follow up once or twice because we live in a world of "we definitely should hang out" when we never take anyone up that offer.
Never hesitate to try and make a new connection.
