How To Tell If You're In A Toxic Relationships (Part One)
June 7, 2021
(friendships, family, romantic, work)
Questions to ask yourself if you're debating removing someone from your life that might be toxic:
How do they speak to you?
If someone is consistently insulting you (as a "joke" or not), putting you down, or making you feel insecure it's time to move on.
How do you feel when you leave them/after you spend time with them?
If you are refuelled and feel energise, happy, and content after you leave them - this is a great sign. If you're depleted, upset, frustrated, or drained - I'd look into why.
Would you let them treat you this way if they were just your friend (romantic partner)?
If your partner is not your friend (preferably best friend) - you should not be dating. They are the person you spend the most time with. They should be the ones who should be the kindest to you. How are they speaking to you? How are you speaking to them? If they were 'just a friend' would this be okay?
Do they increase your confidence or make you feel insecure?
If you feel like you're doing a good job around them and like they support you then you're in good hands. If nothing is up to par and you're constantly trying to prove yourself then you might need to ask yourself - is it more effort than it's worth?
Are they happy for you, your accomplishments, and your success?
When I feel supported it makes me want to try harder. It makes me excited to share my experiences with that person. If there are demeaning comments, "jokes", or things are said that in any way minimize your success move the f*ck on.
